Permission to Parent

Permission to Parent

How to Raise your Child With Love and Limits

Book - 2014
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After being bombarded by parenting fad after parenting fad, moms and dads finally have a friendly, commonsense guide to raising thriving children.

Today, many parents have rejected the dictatorships they resented from their own childhoods. But they overcorrected by turning into child-pleasers. Showering praise and letting kids rule the roost has actually eroded the very self-esteem parents are trying to create.

Using her clinical experience, psychiatrist Robin Berman shows parents how they can take charge while building a loving family with deep connections. How children learn love and respect at home becomes the template for how they show love and respect in life. It's a huge task, but Dr. Berman is your ally every step of the way.

Every parent's struggles are reflected (many of them comically), but so are heartwarming triumphs. Parents, teachers and children themselves recount turning points at which they figured out what great parenting looked like and the magic it unlocked.

This engaging book--a perfect mix of medical research and inspirational anecdotes--just might be the key to being the parent you want to be and the parent your children need.

Publisher: New York : HarperWave, c2014.
ISBN: 9780062277299
Characteristics: 253 pages :,illustrations ;,22 cm.


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ksoles Mar 31, 2015

Guides on best parenting practices have all but taken over bookstore shelves and such an overwhelming amount of opinionated information has produced many confused caregivers. But, while readers can find much of Robin Berman's suggestions in other similar books, the author phrases her ideas in "Permission to Parent" in a welcoming, encouraging way. A psychiatrist (UCLA) and parenting group leader, Berman bases her narrative in current cultural references, which only sometimes weakens the book's integrity. The rest of the time her teachings seem sensible: how to maintain balance in a digital society, how to become an "emotional grown-up" and how to encourage both self-reliance and self-esteem. Throughout, she reminds readers to sync their behaviour with their words.

Ultimately, Berman strives to deter child rearers from wanting to make their children’s lives trouble-free. Overprotective parenting, she asserts, produces young adults who cannot handle the real world, who feel entitled and who have too much power while lacking resilience. She writes: “Parenting is not a democracy...You have to be very respectful of children’s feelings and understand them, but you have to draw the line and set boundaries." More specifically, she advises not to fear saying "no" and to let children do things for themselves as early as possible, even if it results in frustration. Allow children to find their own ways to solve problems and don't jump in to prevent failure; kids need to experience consequences.

Encourage chores, give unstructured play time and praise kindness, consideration and ethical choices. These actions will empower children with a sense of identity and will forge their connections with others. Sound advice on raising responsible, empathetic adults.

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